The Hebrew phrase or koan of “loosen the reins” is too wonderful not to share with you. “Harpeh et HaMoshchot.” Harpeh, meaning “loosen,” is also the word for heal. There is something powerfully healing in letting go of the tightness – loosening the fixities. The word for reins, moshchot, also means attraction or desires. Let your desires breathe; your deepest attractions are wise. Listen to them.
Implicit in the sexual circle are three levels. Circle: unchecked raw sexuality. Line: sexuality delimited and controlled by ethics. Circle: The Secret of the Cherubs. The sexual models but does not exhaust the erotic. This is not an abandonment of ethics. It is a higher ethic which has absorbed the sacred intrusions of the line even as it reintegrates the primal longings of the circle. Eros and Ethics merge.
Dr. Marc Gafni
The Erotic and the Holy