Dr. Marc Gafni: 26 Distinctions Between Ego and Unique Self 

An Excerpt from the Book by Dr. Marc Gafni Self in Integral Evolutionary Mysticism: Two Models and Why They Matter (Integral Publishers, 2014)

The primary critique of Unique Self teaching, leveled by students of Authentic Self in all of its names—for example, evolutionary self—is that Unique Self is but a clever front for ego. Or that even if it is not actually identical with ego, it can all to easily be hijacked by the ego. The latter is a fair and important point. However, the same critique might be just as easily leveled at the clarion call to identify with the evolutionary impulse which lies at the heart of both Unique and Authentic Self teachings. (The difference, as we have already noted, is that in the Authentic Self-teaching, the evolutionary impulse is wholly impersonal, while in the Unique Self teaching, the evolutionary impulse at its core is expressed only personally through you as the personal face of the process). It is all too easy for the ego to hijack the evolutionary impulse as a fig leaf for every manner of ego’s misdeed. Indeed, this is not a theoretical concern, but a sadly well-proved truth as the history of the evolutionary movements show. The grandchildren of Hegel’s evolutionary teaching, communism primary among them, deployed the evolutionary imperative to cover every form of heinous crime against humanity. And yet, that does not invalidate the sacred power of the evolutionary impulse, just as the crimes committed in the name of Christ do not deconstruct the truth and beauty of Christ consciousness, nor does the atom bomb disqualify the nobility of the humanist creative urge born of the new scientific paradigm. Nor does the fact that ego might hijack Unique Self lessen the critical nature of Unique Self realization. All goods may be hijacked. We must, therefore, guard against the hijacking, but we must not refuse to fly. To guard against the conflation of ego and Unique Self, it is necessary to clearly discern between these two very different states and stages of consciousness. Below, I offer the beginning of a discussion of just such a set of discernment.

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Self in Integral Evolutionary Mysticism

Two major works have been written within the framework of Integral Wisdom about the nature of Self and God. While they share important features, namely the evolutionary context of the conversation and a vision of Self beyond Ego, their interior visions of the quality of the Self beyond Ego are profoundly different.
Both of these visions of Self, or key dimensions of the two versions, have been adopted, directly and indirectly by many spiritual teachers. In Self in Integral Evolutionary Mysticism, Marc Gafni articulates the two models, their shared features and their differences, and as we seek to articulate an Integral Wisdom, why these differences matter so desperately.

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Dr. Marc Gafni: 26 Distinctions Between Ego and Unique Self 2023-09-12T10:03:49-07:00

Ego Story or Unique Self Story Reloaded – Ego and Unique Self Distinction #25

by Dr. Marc Gafni from Your Unique Self

Your egoic story can be taken away by the circumstances of life. Your Unique Self story can never be taken away from you.

Ego can be taken away from you. Unique Self can never be taken away from you.

Further discussion:

In his book Your Unique Self Dr. Marc continues with a beautiful, very personal, and deeply touching story, which shall be reserved for its readers. Another example for this would be the story of the great Rebbe of Piaseczno, who has found and lived his Unique Self story in the midst of the greatest destruction, so beautifully told by Dr. Marc in this video series.

For the conclusion of our series on the distinctions between Unique Self and Ego, it remains to be said: It is time to put it all to work in our daily lives, in our personal Unique Self stories.

And in all our striving and yearning that is an essential part of waking up and growing up to our full realization of our Unique Self, let’s never forget that in essence, Unique Self is who we truly are and always have been. So, in a way, we can relax into our own everlasting being and becoming. Uniqueness and Oneness are all around as well as within us–for those who have eyes to see and ears to hear. To awaken to our infinitely gorgeous Unique Selves simply means to become conscious of that and to realize it in our own being–and in the world.

To show up as Unique Self means–as Dr. Marc so often reminds us–to incarnate as the Personal Face of Essence, of the Love-Beauty and Love-Intelligence of the Cosmos, to give our Unique gifts, and to respond to an authentic need that we are aware of in our world. It means to “Love Thy Neighbor as Thyself,” to see the neighbor even in the stranger, to become outrageous lovers, and to write outrageous loveletters to the universe.

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Come back to these distinctions as often as you like and share with us your path of learning and discovery–here or on one of our FB-pages:

  1. Special or Not Special
  2. Action or Reaction 
  3. Imitation or Originality
  4. Satisfaction and Greed
  5. Enough or More
  6. Ego or Unique Self Story
  7. Joy or Fear
  8. Open Heart or Closed Heart
  9. Eros or Grasping
  10. Authentic Freedom or Pseudofreedom
  11. King or Servant
  12. Victim or Player
  13. Betrayal or Loyalty
  14. Authentic Friendship or Pseudofriendship
  15. Bigger or Smaller
  16. Yes or No
  17. Justice or Injustice
  18. Responsibility or Excuse
  19. Paradox or Splitting
  20. Past or Present
  21. Special Relationship or Open as Love
  22. Love or Fear
  23. Eternity or Death
  24. Pleasure: Delusion or Divine

Let’s finish this series with Rumi:

Come, come, whoever you are.
Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving.
It doesn’t matter.

Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vows a thousand times.
Come, yet again, come, come.

Ego Story or Unique Self Story Reloaded – Ego and Unique Self Distinction #252024-07-05T12:26:31-07:00

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #20 — Past or Present

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #20 — Past or Present2023-06-22T08:03:03-07:00

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #16: Yes or No

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #16: Yes or No2023-06-22T08:03:04-07:00

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #12: Victim or Player

Distinction between Ego and Unique Self #12: Victim or Player2023-06-22T08:03:04-07:00
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