A New Pattern Of Sacred Relationship Emerges | Vylana Marcus, Alana Beale, & Dr. Marc Gafni at the Aubrey Marcus Podcast

Dr. Marc Gafni, as esteemed teacher, joins this Aubrey Marcus podcast with Vylana Marcus and Alana Beale to discuss the cosmic, philosophical, spiritual, and psychological underpinnings of a configuration of Love. 

Join Aubrey Marcus, Vylana Marcus, Alana Beale and Dr. Marc Gafni in conversation.

In Aubrey’s voice:

This is by far the most controversial podcast we have ever released, triggering equal amounts of radical praise and intense hatred. We read through thousands of comments and ultimately chose to leave the podcast up, but for actual concerns for our own safety to take the comments down. Something about this wildly intimate and emotional revelation that includes the story of how the sacred union with my wife Vylana expanded to include our beloved Alana Beale, a 28 year old powerful woman who we esteem as a teacher to us in many ways.

Why did it touch such a raw nerve?

Perhaps it was the disappointment in the fantasy of Aubrey embodying the reformed Polyamory guy, the bad boy who made good, being dashed on the rocks of reality. Perhaps not having Vylana’s paramour Joshua at the table with us, or one of Alana’s lovers she has had during this process gave an impression that this was some form of archaic patriarchal polygyny. Perhaps it is because in our post-modern world, monogamous union is one of the values that has survived the onslaught of post-modernity. Perhaps it is because I made the mistake of maintaining the repose of a podcast host, instead of dropping into the raw feeling tones of my beautiful wife Vylana. Perhaps it is because there were private details of certain challenging interpersonal dynamics between Vylana and I that were left out of the narrative. Perhaps it is because there is a misinterpretation that the whispers we received along the way, nudging us toward this constellation were being claimed as God’s will. Which of course, none of us can claim to know God’s will.

But ultimately this podcast is not a prescription; we state that many times. It is a description of what has worked for us to allow us to live a life of radical commitment and total freedom. And we have been shocked that so many people who celebrate the beautifully diverse non-heteronormative unions, have expressed such vitriol and ill-will toward all of us. Because we dare to ask the question: Are relationship structures intended by the Cosmos to be one size fits all? Or do variations actually serve the evolution of love?

Dr. Marc Gafni, our esteemed teacher, joins us to discuss the cosmic, philosophical, spiritual, and psychological underpinnings behind this configuration of love that we hope will expand the boundaries of what is possible in every dimension of our intimate, personal, and communal political lives.

Evolution of Love from Quarks to Culture: The Rise of Evolutionary Relationships in Response to the Meta-Crisis

by Dr. Marc Gafni (Author), Dr. Zak Stein(Contributor), Elena Maslova Levin (Contributor)

Story is the source code of culture and consciousness and of all Reality-all the way up and down the evolutionary chain. Story is the attempt to gather information about the nature of Reality and translate it into narrative frameworks bounded by Value.
Stories that organize culture are “Stories of Value, backed by the Universe”.

Postmodernity argues that Reality is just a story, and that all stories are created equal (equally meaningless of inherent value) because value itself is not real. And therefore, all stories of value are but social constructs, fictions, or figments of our imagination.

The postmodernists are wrong.

Story is real. And not all stories are equal. There are better and worse stories. A better story is an eternal and evolving story of Value. Evolving Value backed by the Universe.

A worse story-one with flawed, incomplete, or distorted plotlines of distorted value, like the story we’ve lived in the West for the better part of the last century-can, and will, bring us to the brink of existential risk, the potential end of humanity as we know it.

Value is both real, backed by the Universe, and like everything in the Universe, value evolves. The evolution of value itself is the evolution of love, as Eros and evolution themselves, are inherent plotlines of value in the great story of Cosmos.

The goal of The Evolution of Love, and its companion volume Whole Mate: The Future of Relationships, is to provide a first articulation of a new, better story of Value in the domain of relationship. At the core of this New Story of Value are a new Universe Story and a new narrative of identity, which we have called CosmoErotic Humanism and Homo amor.

If we fail to articulate this New Story of Value, the results will be excruciating for billions of human beings and for the entire life system–as for the trillions of lives that will remain unborn.

All of the past depends on us to fulfill its dreams.
All of the present depends on us to live.
All of the future depends on us to be born.

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A New Pattern Of Sacred Relationship Emerges | Vylana Marcus, Alana Beale, & Dr. Marc Gafni at the Aubrey Marcus Podcast2025-05-31T08:08:17-07:00

The Evolution of Love: A Film with Barbara Marx Hubbard & Marc Gafni

In the world today we look around and see that we’ve made love small. We have exiled love to a particular transient emotion that takes place between particular human beings of a particular gender within a particular legal context.

In our CIW Think Tank, we have an understanding that love is an expression of a much deeper source. For us, love is the animating Eros, the love-intelligence and love-beauty of all reality.

As we wake up and grow up, as we show up in our lives, we become the clearest and most powerful vessels for that love. We are participating in the evolution of love by evolving our consciousness and emerging as our Evolutionary Unique Self.

Are you ready to play a larger game?

You are invited to participate in the Evolution of Love.

Watch our beloved Co-Board Chair Barbara Marx Hubbard and CIW President Dr. Marc Gafni as they explore the Mysteries of the Evolution of Love:

This film was made in November 2015.

The Evolution of Love: A Film with Barbara Marx Hubbard & Marc Gafni2023-06-17T14:28:41-07:00

Ervin Laszlo & Marc Gafni on Supercoherence

Watch and listen to this 7-minute video, the fourth part of a 10-part dialogue with Ervin Laszlo and Marc Gafni in Tuscany on the topic of Evolutionary Love–envisioning a new Renaissance that will take us to the future. Watch previous posts from this series:

Enjoy the fourth part of the dialogue here:

Transcript

Dr. László: The idea is in us, I think. This is what I want to emphasize. You know, it’s been only last few years that I’ve kind of rediscovered that I’m a Platonist, I didn’t know that. I always thought of myself as more Aristotelian, but I discovered that in Plato, this idea that our deepest level, what Plato called the soul, or the spirit, it knows it all. It’s there. When we discover something, we rediscover it. The knowledge is there, because everything that we need in this world, everything that brought us here to be a complex species, endowed with consciousness, had to be in us, had to be a part of our heritage, otherwise we wouldn’t be here, so there is this drive towards complexity, diversity in this unity.

And this is part of the unfolding of this evolutionary trend in the world. It unfolds because systems become integrated with other systems. Each of them maintains its identity, each of them contributes to it. Now if you could contribute to it consciously, you can carry forward this evolutionary trend, this evolutionary drive, toward higher levels of integration. This individuality, diversity, this unity, we can carry it forward much more effectively, enhance this process. And to my mind, this is what I’m thinking now, and what am working on now. This is the ultimate meaning, if there is such a thing, I’m think there is, ultimate meaning of existence, of conscious existence. That we’re able to prehend, to comprehend, that we are part of this evolutionary unfolding symphony. Which is taking us, like you have pointed out, is taking us as unique irreducible selves, into a larger unity, into a larger whole.

We don’t have to worry about surrendering ourselves, because as conscious being, we maintain the universe in us. The whole universe is encompassed in our consciousness, because we can grasp it, we can prehend it, as Whitehead would say. So we are there, as an irreducible whole, in the universe, which is unfolding around us, and unfolding in us. We can describe it objectively, as the coherence of elements in higher level systems. We can describe is subjectively, but just as meaningfully, and perhaps even more meaningfully, as the sense of becoming part, part of larger and larger communities, communing with others, and this is the world around us. And that’s the idea, that’s the element that we have neglected. That’s the element in our deep consciousness, that we have to recover, through meditation, through prayer. That’s where spirituality, I think, helps, to us, to rediscover that we are part of a cosmic symphony unfolding.

We carry our individuality as a force, as an element, not by disregarding and subordinating the rest, but by cohering, embracing this. I talk, you know, about all embracing love. You mentioned loved could be subverted a little bit if it’s limited to two or more individuals.

Marc Gafni: That would be ordinary love, egoic love.

Dr. László: Egoic love, but we could have a deeper love, which is our sense of being a part of the cosmos. Now, this seems to be like a very big statement, but part of reality, if you have that sense, you start relating differently, then you start not using coal, but using solar, for example. Then you start acting in a way that you can co-evolve with others around you. I’m convinced that biologists have also pointed out, there is no evolution in the world, except co-evolution. There is nothing except in partnership with others around it. Coherence is ultimately supercoherence, as you mentioned. To my mind, supercoherence as a very simple definition, is the coherence among coherent systems.

We are a coherent system, in so far as we’re healthy. When we have disease, then we’re breaking down as a coherence, but as healthy beings we are coherent. Now, we are also coherent with our group, with our fellows, with our communities, with our families, with our ethnic group, with our culture, with our nation, et cetera, and ultimately with human kind. Then we are supercoherent. And there is nothing on this planet, on the web of life, that would not be supercoherent, except modern people, because they have forgotten this larger part of their coherence, and that’s the task before us, to recover this, to be, again, feel ourselves a part of the unfolding symphony of life, on this Earth. That’s the only way I think we can overcome our problems. That’s the best way we can move into a future where we can participate, where we can flourish, and have the rest of the system flourish as well.

Marc Gafni: Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So there’s this dislocation, right, which is this unique dislocation modernity, and this dislocation, of course, has served initially the evolutionary process, because it has allowed for the emergence of self, and the self’s dignity, and the self’s right, so human rights and democracy and feminism, have been what’s emerged from the beginning of this dislocation, the beginning of the dislocation was, I’m not only defined in terms of my larger context, I actually have irreducibly, irreducible dignity independently. You’re following, everyone who’s listening, so this dislocation that Ervin’s describing begins as a health evolutionary movement forward, but then it pathologizes, because the beginning of it stated, I’m not only part of a larger context, I also have my own irreducible dignity, but then it lost, it forgot, of course, I’m part of a larger context, of course I’m located right in the larger context, it dislocated from any location other than the desiccated self. And then the desiccated self was unable to experience its own meaning, and its own sense of wholeness. It then absorbed, parasitically, everything into itself, whether as a nation, or as an individual, which began the massive consumption of energy regimes, which produced the second shock of existence. And as Ervin said, we’re telling the exact same story. You know, slightly different ways of telling the narrative, which makes it exciting, but it’s the same story.

>>> You can watch the whole 10-part dialogue here <<<

In their dialogue, Ervin Laszlo and Marc Gafni share about the Second Shock of Existence, the New Renaissance, Evolutionary Love, and Unique Self Enlightenment as well as cutting-edge topics like supercoherence, self-organization, and the Unique Self Symphony.

If you like the dialogue, you may be interested in our online course “Becoming a Future Human”

Becoming a Future Human, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Marc Gafni, Daniel SchmachtenbergerWho do we need to become in order for humanity to make it though its current dangerous technological adolescence and to create a world that is truly commensurate with our full human, scientific, social, spiritual, and technological capabilities? If you are here to embody your unique gift fully for the benefit of all life and play your role as a steward of the cosmos and the birth of a new humanity, then welcome! This course is for everyone that knows humanity is at the brink of an epochal shift, that believes we can create the world the great sages knew was possible, and that wants to be a part of co-creating that world together.

>>> Learn more about the course here <<<

Ervin Laszlo & Marc Gafni on Supercoherence2023-06-17T14:59:59-07:00

Ervin Laszlo & Marc Gafni: 10-Part Video Dialogue on Evolutionary Love 2014

For this dialogue, Ervin Laszlo and Marc Gafni met in Tuscany and talked about the topic of Evolutionary Love–envisioning a new Renaissance that will take us to the future.

In the dialogue they touched on a wide array of subjects (click on the links for separate posts with the single videos and transcripts):

  1. Introduction, The New Renaissance, & Love as an Erotic Force
  2. The Second Shock of Existence
  3. Evolutionary Love, The True Nature of Reality & Unique Self Enlightenment
  4. Supercoherence
  5. Self-Organization, the Ability to Receive Information from the Larger System, & the Spiritual Dimension
  6. How to Open the Eye of the Spirit & The Unique Self Symphony
  7. Evolutionary Love – Personal and Cosmic Love Are One – the Personal as a Quality of Essence
  8. Appearing as the One – Unending Symphony
  9. Prayer
  10. Death and Reincarnation  

Enjoy the dialogue here:

Ervin Laszlo & Marc Gafni: 10-Part Video Dialogue on Evolutionary Love 20142023-06-19T10:38:14-07:00
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